“The problem is, Vietnamese women are getting prettier and prettier,” said Nhan, perched on a stool at his cozy establishment that serves up draft beer, hamburgers and female employees in short shorts who flirtatiously brush against male customers they like. “The tradition has been the male chases after the female,” Liem said. Not long ago, a buddy of his overstayed a two-week second visa issued by his girlfriend. Guys 50 and over can get girls who are in their 20s and look like models.
“Now, it’s the other way around in Vietnam.” Said one Vietnamese-American tech executive from Silicon Valley who didn’t want to reveal his name for fear of causing his own second visa problems: “You get hit on all the time. “When he came back, she tossed all his stuff out onto the street,” he said. It’s too good to pass up.” A friskiness permeates the culture in Vietnam that many men visiting from other countries find irresistible.
Traditional Asians pride themselves on their marriages, families, children, and continuation of the family lineage so when their sons/daughters begin dating someone they don't approve of, it's going to a difficult process.
Usually, one side or both sets of parents are dead set against them dating their significant other.
“There’s a certain charm here that you don’t see in Singapore or China,” let alone the United States, said Chung Hoang Chuong, a faculty member in the Asian American Studies department at City College of San Francisco, who spends about half his time in Vietnam.
“If you make a pass at a girl, she won’t push you away.
Regardless of the differences, if the couple truly desires to stay together and are committed to the relationship then my recommendation in therapy is for them to stay the course.
In the eyes of a foreigner, love is more important than it is with Vietnamese gentlemen.” Suspicions unfounded Still, some men say the suspicion that most Vietnamese-American males come here just to play is overblown — plenty of Viet Kieu come back only for business or family visits.
“We love fun, but we are not stupid,” said Khanh Tran, a retired teacher who lives in San Jose.
Sometimes it's because one person is dating someone Caucasian.
Other times it's because they're of a different Asian ethnicity.
And some Viet Kieu males have a bad reputation because they act like playboys who throw money around and convince women they are sincere in their affections — only to disappear when they return to the United States.