Verbalizing the sexual roles we want and hearing what our partners want to do to us is essential in sexual arousal. Ava Cadell, professional speaker, writer, and sex therapist in Los Angeles, Calif., couples engage in dirty talk to “heighten their arousal and share fantasies that they may not want to turn into reality, but talking about them can be even better.”Committing sexual acts and talking dirty involve two completely different mindsets.Dirty talk is something we do by ourselves, as opposed to physical sex acts.The whispers, moans, and screams accompanied by dirty talk are all processed by the brain’s hearing center, including the temporal lobe, the frontal lobe, and the occipital lobe. The brain and how it organizes the rest of our erogenous zones is further proof of the crucial role of the brain in determining both sex drive and sexual pleasure.Asking what our partners need from us and what we need from them opens up the lines of communication to show we’re open to changing things up in the bedroom.
This linguistic exchange can reveal the darker fantasies of the mind and be played out in the privacy of the bedroom.According to the researchers, even the slightest anxiety about communication affected whether partners were communicating or not. Those who did communicate during sex were more likely to experience sexual satisfaction.In other words, engaging in a dialogue that feels good with our partner can heighten the sexual experience.Dirty talk is a liberating experience for women to break down this mindset and become comfortable in their sexuality and desires.It’s where people invite their fantasies and where that straight-laced version of a person will enjoy being tied up, being called certain kinds of names, and using dirty words for genital parts when otherwise they wouldn’t think of such behavior, says Walfish.When we look past the kinkiness, we may find there’s more to dirty talk than our desire to bring out our wild side. The brain is considered a more powerful sexual organ than even male and female genitalia because it’s where sex drive stems from.