I tried my best to be my most Top-self (like trying to polish a turd, as they say).I tried to make my chest seem bigger, deepened my voice and swigged my sh---y beer like I was in a square state. I was Bottoming out after talking to guy after guy for FOUR HOURS.The two people I’m currently dating seriously I met at two separate kink events. I have friends who say, “I have no hobbies, I just sit at home and binge-watch crumby TV on Netflix.” I always reply the same thing, “That IS a hobby, and there are meet-up groups where you can do just that.” You can volunteer for a social group or a more politically-active organization.Do you like hiking, chess, jewelry making, old movies, or reading? Either way, you'll meet other LGBTQ folk who are either passionate about LGBTQ rights and social progress, or simply looking to meet new friends.There was a drizzle of uneasy laughter from the men in line. Whereas I tried to look as though I had just gotten off my fancy job as a writer, a majority of the men looked as though they had just left their shift at Aeropostale. Why were they dressed like that dude from high school who always tries to sell you knives when you run into him every trip back home?
By the end of the night I had met about 16 different men, and I can tell you that the look of disappointment that flashed on their faces upon seeing me never got old.
Gay sports leagues are a great way to make new friends and partners.
Being part of a team automatically bonds you, so if you’re shy or introverted, that’s okay.
( Depending on your religion, your city may have a surprising number of LGBTQ religious groups, which is a fabulous way to meet new men, enhance your spirituality, and discover an accepting LGBTQ community.
Personally, I’m a member of Keshet (which means rainbow in Hebrew), which is a Jewish LGBTQ group in Boston.
It’s important to have various ways of meeting men.