When I see people carting around their exes and devoting so much time to tending to these ‘friendships’, I have to wonder: how in the hell do they expect to have room for a romantic partner? Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.I regularly ask people who are expending excessive amounts of energy on keeping their ex in their life: Exactly what part of moving forward with your life does your ex fit into? Whether it's figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.gradually seeing that they’re now falling for them instead.Then the haremologist gets to have a brief romance and then turn it down or to claim that his/her interest has been ‘misunderstood’ and that they just want friendship.A lot of people are friends with an ex or two although plenty aren’t.It’s not a badge of honour to be friends with your ex and it doesn’t make you a Good Girl/Guy.Vincent, Field Marshal Sir Richard Frederick, GBE KCB DSO, former chairman of the Military Committee, Nato. Smith, Sir Geoffrey Johnson, DL, MP for Wealden and vice-chairman of the 1922 Committee.Howe, Richard Edward Geoffrey, Baron, of Aberavon, QC, for political service.
You might find yourself hanging around for reputation management.Talking with a friend recently who was rather enamoured with a chap who was super ambiguous, a little probing revealed that this guy has a hell of a lot of female friends. Like when you see those shows about hoarders and then can barely move for all of the stuff piled up around them and they feel super attached to stuff that they’re never going to use or appreciate for that matter.This guy collects exes, love interests that he’s turned down as well as becoming friends with the exes of his friends.When it’s genuine friendship, this is self-evident and unforced. It’s not baggage because the friendships are not being carted around as a way to avoid letting go and/or as symbols to reassure the ego.If a someone is in the habit of remaining in touch with all of their exes, their ex love interests who they didn’t reciprocate the feelings of and even their friends’ exes, these ‘friendships’ are important to their ego and are serving a purpose.You say you want to meet somebody and have a mutual relationship – why are you basing your life plans around how to keep your ex in your life or even how to keep them happy? The easiest way to ensure that you don’t end up in someone’s house of ex dolls collection is to ensure that self-esteem isn’t reliant on validation from ex partners or people who don’t reciprocate your interest.