“A good partnership is not so much one between two healthy people (there aren’t many of these on the planet), it’s one between two demented people who have had the skill or luck to find a non-threatening conscious accommodation between their relative insanities.” This is probably my favorite quote from this piece, about how we end up marrying the wrong people.
So you search for someone tall, handsome, rich, funny, and spiritual, who also likes wine tasting and skiing, and think that if you find him, all will be well.As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented.When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy." This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person? We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way?You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it.As for our friends, they predictably don’t care enough about us to have any motive to probe our real selves. Therefore, we end up blind to the awkward sides of our natures.” Amen.