"You want to be the fast-moving car that he wants to jump into, not the one sitting in the parking lot, waiting around," Trespicio says.Keep up your long runs on the weekends even if he wants to hang out, and don't expect (or nag) him to skip his weekly basketball games in favor of seeing you.If you'd rather go to the GYN than watch football, don't pretend to love the Steelers just because the guy you're seeing is a fan.Instead have your own interests to show him how exciting your life is, with or without him.Even if you're anxiously awaiting his call, you shouldn't be available every time he wants to see you."You want to create something worth investing in and make him realize your value," Trespicio says.No need to sign up at the homeless shelter only to impress him.Little things in your everyday life, from buying coffee for the woman in line behind you to walking your neighbor's dog, count too.
When you're a kind and gracious person, men (and women) are more likely to want to be around you—both consciously Think beyond dinner and after-drinks for your next date.
"If you're always waiting around, he won't feel the need to try that hard."Build some intrigue into your schedule that keeps him wanting more.
Wait a few minutes to text back, or if he asks if you're free Tuesday, say that you have other plans but you'd love to meet up on Wednesday.
"Explain what kind of relationship you want and why, defining what commitment means for you without giving an ultimatum." If he isn't open to a discussion, let him mull it over for a couple weeks.
But if he still doesn't respond when you bring it up again, it may be time to rethink the relationship.
"The most appealing thing to a man is a woman who has her own autonomy and strength," Kelman says.