Sure enough, few women give a fair shake to a man who is 5’3”, no matter what else he has going for him. So I tried changing my profile for three days just to see what the difference was between being 5’3″ and 5’10”. And no amount of complaining is going to change it. And why, in God’s name, is it important to stand on your tiptoes to kiss a guy? Is there any legitimate reason not to go out with this amazing, amazing man? I wanted to know if height was the only difference and the constant deal breaker. The reality is that playing emotional detective usually only succeeds at doing one thing: Making the girl go absolutely crazy.My suggestion is rather than trying to “solve the mystery”, assume that things are the way you want them to be. Worrying what the other person thinks usually just creeps them out…Yet his height defines him, since it has prevented otherwise interested women from being interested in him over the course of his entire life. Okay, I’m kidding about the last part, but only because I’m so serious about the rest of this. And even though we had good initial results, the fact remains, empirically: women don’t want short men.To see if the women would go for short guys who were successful, ABCNEWS’ Lynn Sherr created extraordinary résumés for the shorter men. Sherr asked whether there’d be anything she could say that would make the shortest of the men, who was 5 feet, irresistible. And although you can feel free to substitute “older women”, “older men”, “heavier women”, or “Asian men”, I honestly feel that nobody gets a rawer deal than short guys.You can see what a great experience it was in this CBS Early Show clip: What I haven’t yet mentioned is that Tom Pandolfo is 5’3″.I didn’t want to mention it for the same reason that Tom didn’t want to mention it in his profile: because it’s irrelevant to anything that makes him a good accountant, husband, or father. He’s just been confronted with a very ugly reality that has shaken his confidence in people.
So if your end goal is to live longer (and whose isn't? Chubby guys have more of the female sex hormone estradiol in their bodies, which slows down their orgasms — meaning you guys can get it on all night long. But deeper than that, what you’re hoping is for me to confirm that I see things the way you want them to be – “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, etc.” You ever play those games? It’s a sense that you don’t really believe that it could be true, but you really want it to be.A lot of the time, women fall into the trap of playing “emotional detective”: They dig into their memories and observations and go through EVERY insignificant detail to try and uncover some “hidden message” or “secret code” that the guy is sending.The more you like yourself and believe that you can have what you want, the more likely you actually will.Now, in the remaining part of the article, I’m going to talk about ways that you can tell if he likes you.Appearing with me was one of my all-time favorite clients, Tom Pandolfo. We renamed him “Look Ma No Hair.” And we watched as his in-box filled up with interested women.